The lifestyle likes to describe itself as honest, elevated, and self aware. It tells people that once sexual exclusivity is removed, communication improves, jealousy fades, and everyone magically behaves like an emotionally literate adult who has read at least three books on boundaries. That story is comforting. It is also a fantasy. Sex does not refine character. It exposes it. When desire, novelty, alcohol, and social opportunity are placed in the same environment, whatever